Contacts and connection

Yesterday, out of no wear a classmate texted me. She was from my school. In the school, we were not friends but mere classmates. We were not rivals however we were not even buddies. I was one of the top most students where as she was an average student. There were more differences than similarities between us.

We completed our school in the year 2002. We have not been in touch with each other since then. Almost after 23 years she texted me. I did not even have her number so she had to tell me who she was. I did recognise her from her name and her picture.

She told me that she was looking for a job. Since we are from the same industry she thought of letting me know. So I asked her to share her CV with me which I then shared with few of my other industry friends.

This interaction made me think quite a lot. Before talking to anyone or even texting anyone after a very long time, I always think whether it is appropriate. Because I hadn't been in touch with someone and all of a sudden I getting touch with them only for some work. I over think that they might think that I contact them not because of friendship but rather to use them. I know this is over thinking but this is what I think. However when it comes to others, I have seen that day to not hesitate to contact someone after several years for their work. Rather they skip the small talks and directly jump to the topic even without hesitation.

Maybe it has to do with the difference in the upbringing. I have been told by my parents that we should not keep in touch with people only for work but rather we should maintain a relationship with them. Where as this does not hold true for others. I don't mind that at all. If I could help someone in any possible way I would do it regardless of whether they had been in touch with me. I will continue to do so.

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