Introvert vs extrovert

Alright, here is a burning question. Are you an introvert or an extra word?

People want to identify as Extrovert. They think that being extrovert means being cool. Being too cool for the world. Extroverted attitude or behaviour will always be appreciated. They want to convey that they talk a lot.  The interact with everyone. They talk to everybody. They have expressive body language. They are very passionate and opinionated. Of course, this is what they think this may not be the fact?

Now, according to these self-identified extroverts, the introverts are the ones who do not talk a lot. They remain quiet and they remain quiet is because they must be shy. They lack self-confidence. They do not want to express themselves, because they are shy. They do not want to express their opinions because they are afraid that what other people will think about them. This is the extraordinary opinion about the introverts.

I often get asked this question. Are you an introvert or an extrovert?

I do not consider myself to be an introvert or an extrovert. I believe that silence is beautiful. Silence is meaningful. Silence is not a void that needs to be filled with noise. If I am interrupting the silence, I am interrupting something meaningful, something beautiful. If I have to interrupt the silence, I should speak only what is meaningful; I should speak valuable. I should speak only what is useful. Otherwise I should not interrupt the silence. 

So-called extroverts should understand that speaking  unnecessary does not make them cool.  Endless yaping is not going to make them look intelligent. Talking and being loud unnecessarily, asking everyone to listen to them, or force others to talk to them does not make them desirable. It makes them annoying.  They should understand that speaking is someone's choice. If someone does not want to talk, they are free to live as per thei wish. Nobody should not be forced to talk. Also nobody should not be labelled as introverts,  just because they do not want to indulge in your unnecessary conversation.

Finally, enjoy the silence, till it lasts.

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